Disclaimer: My wedding was such a magical day. I thank God for beautiful weather, beautiful family, and a beautiful man that met me at the end of that aisle. These are just a few bits of that day that could have meant a smoother ride.
1.An Unplugged Wedding…at least until the reception.
This is a concept that never even crossed my mind during my months of wedding planning. With so many decisions to make and so many factors to consider, some things just get looked over. In my case, this was one of those things. That being said, I so wish that I would have thought of this! I mean does anyone know how frustrating it is to round up a whole bridal party for photos to begin with?! It is not, by any means, easy. Then you add in fifteen family members holding up their cameras, telling everyone to look fifteen different directions……I wanted to scream. (Keep in mind that at this point I hadn’t eaten all day and it was roughly 90 degrees) So my suggestion to you would be to put up a sign that’s 7 feet tall and reads, “Pull out your camera. I dare you.” Okay so maybe you word it a little more nicely….or not…who cares about semantics, right?
2. Take the time to enjoy it….I mean really enjoy it.
Time on your wedding day goes by so unbelievably quickly. There are so many things buzzing around you. So many people entering and exiting. So many questions being asked. So many final decisions to be made. “Haley, does this table arrangement look okay?” “Haley, is this the correct first dance song?” “Haley, Maci (our flower girl) refuses to wear the headband.” It. Is. Overwhelming. You don’t even have time to be nervous or anxious or excited. To do it over again would mean to sit back and enjoy it. To relish in the moments right before my life would be forever changed. To sit and let my body fill with giddy anticipation while I await the walk that will lead me to my greatest love. That is how I wish I would have spent my wedding day. Those moments are so special. So real. So necessary.
3. Choose a Cooler (Less Humind) Month
Where are all my curly hair girls at? This one’s for you. Mid June in Tennessee is always two things: hot and HUMID. For those of us that have the blessing (or curse) of spiral locks, those two things can make for a lethal combination. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVED my hair on my wedding day thanks to my amazing hair dresser Casey York (If anyone is in the Middle Tennessee area with an upcoming wedding or formal event, you should definitely look her up!), but it would have been nice to have long bouncy curls for that sweet flower crown to sit atop.
4. Plan the Ceremony to Start Later in the Day
This is something that I fought for during my wedding planning process, but, ultimately, I was outvoted. I had this vision of having the perfect ambiance right at dusk with a thousand candles all burning at once (not to mention it would have been much cooler). While I did have lots of candles lit, it just was not the same in full light.
5. Get a Videographer
I know, I know. Don’t give me the “What?! What do you mean you didn’t have a videographer?!” look.
My name is Haley Jacobs, and apparently I live under a rock…..with no wifi. Obviously I missed the Pinterest Post titled, “Don’t Ever Have a Wedding without a Videographer. Like EVER.”
This is 100% the most important item on this list. If I could change only one thing about my wedding, it would be this. Remember what I said earlier about time passing so quickly on your wedding day? Well it’s actually like living a whole day in fast-forward. It is impossible to be able to think back on that day and recall all the sweet little details. I wish so badly that I could relive the exchanging of our vows over and over again. I will always keep and treasure the written versions of our vows, but it would be so special to have the ability to show our future children how much love surrounded us on the day we said “I do.”
So if you take absolutely anything from this post, take this. Splurge and get a videographer. The End. Just do it.
6. Make a List of Most Important Photos to give to the Photographer
This one probably seems obvious too, but somehow I seemed to look over it as well. Give me a break! Planning your own wedding is hard! This is so important, though. You want to make sure that you and you and your photographer are on the same page so that you don’t end up disappointed when you get back the final edits of those oh so special photos. If seeing his face when you’re walking down the aisle is most important to you, that should be item #1 on your list. Other moments to keep in mind are the first kiss, first dance, and the exchanging of rings. These are moments that you will want to look back on and remember with perfect clarity.
7. Write a letter to each other to exchange on that day
It’s almost 6 months later and I am still kicking myself for not doing this! Those that know me, know that I am the sappiest most sentimental person that ever walked the earth. How could I not have done this?! I reread our wedding vows on the weekly. How special would it be to have the ability to reread words from my husband that came from a place of anxious, giddy excitement on the morning of our wedding day?
8. Hire a Wedding Coordinator for the Reception
I was not about hiring a wedding planner for my wedding. We weren’t having a huge wedding, and I was sure that I could handle it all on my own. I guess I did “handle” it, but if I had it to do over, I would have hired a professional to make it go as smoothly as possible. By the time the reception rolls around, the last thing on your mind is remembering in which order the events of the night should unfold. For the ceremony, the only thing to worry about is walking down the aisle in the correct order and meeting your soon to be husband at the end. The reception is a little bit more complicated than that. While the most important event takes place during the ceremony, the bulk of the evening’s events take place during the reception. This results in a whole lot of chaos if not properly planned for, so make it easier on yourself and hire someone who knows what they are doing!
9. Have a First Look with my Dad
This is actually something that I had planned on doing but ran out of time before the ceremony. So I guess for this one, you get two in one: Have a first look with your dad and make sure you have planned enough time for photos!
My Dad was mush on my wedding day. During our walk down the aisle, during the father-daughter dance, during everything. It was the sweetest thing! I was so excited to have this special moment with just he and I before he gave me away to my husband. There just was not enough time to fit everything in! I was so disappointed that this was something that fell through the cracks. Being married now, there are not many occasions that I get to spend special moments with my dad. I wish so much that I could have had this memory to share together forever.
10. Do Something Special with my Bouquet
Also something that I had planned on doing. As you can tell, I had great intentions but not the greatest execution! Oh well, I tried… I carried around my bouquet all night long, determined not to lose it. I literally would not let this thing out of my sight. Despite all of my effort, I still left my bouquet at the venue! I could have screamed. Being such a sentimental person, I wanted to transform my bouquet into something that I could keep forever. Has anyone seen the jewelry that is made from flowers that you send in from your bouquet?! Ya’ll they are seriously the most adorable sentiments ever! Click here to check them out!